I got a email from a so called friend last night i wanted to share it with you, I can't belive how hurt full the people you once thought understood you could be ...
Dear Megan.
You know i though we were best friends i call you up to hang out and you give me some stupid ass reason why you can't like your sick or your in to much pain ! Come on if you don't wanna hang out with me if then tell me and it would not be a problem but your not tellen me the truth and i know that there is no way your sick very week end and shit like that. Girl your such a fucken lier .
Your the worst frind someone could ever have , I wish i never got to know you, yes i tell all my friends about you and they all think your full of shit. I saw you at the store the other day with your mom and you looked fine your not sick you lien pice of shit!!!
I never wanna speak to you agian and i hope to hell your happy that you just lost a 2 1/2 year friend ship BITCH!!!
4 comments:
Oh, Megan, I'm so sorry! Of course, I'm sure it doesn't help for you to hear, "Well, she really wasn't a good friend, anyway" and I'm sure you already know that. I hope that her fear and anger can be soothed, and that you will find genuine friendship in someone who can treasure you where you are, as who and what you are.
Hi Megan,
I had a "friend" do that to me once too. It hurts soooo badly! I still dream about her sometimes and try not to think bad thoughts, even though that is very easy to do. It is not worth the little energy I have to waste it on being angry - it did take me years to come to that conclusion though.
I burned the letter I got from that woman because it was so hateful and simply not true. My best friends who had known me a long time helped to dispel her lies.
People like this must have something wrong with them to rage against innocent people. It's not right to treat another person with such contempt and spite. I try to live with the motto to "do no harm" - to myself and others.
Maybe this situation will help you recognize other people like her so you can avoid becoming deep friends with them. It's certainly been true for me.
I have also learned to be an advocate for myself so I can educate people about EDS and the problems we have living with an "invisible disability". That helps me feel better about myself and stronger in the process.
Be good to yourself,
~e
Oh god hunny, I'm so sorry. You can e-mail and vent as much as you like, though I've never had a friend say something like that to me (at least not to my face) I do know what it's like to lose friends from illness. It never ceases to amaze me how cruel people can be. All someone has to do is see the scars from your surgeries to know you're telling the truth. Just because she saw you enjoying yourself that one day doesn't mean you're not sick. Just because we're sick doesn't mean we have to be miserable 24/7. If that was the case we all would have killed ourselves long ago. Being sick we know that life is full of pain and we need to enjoy the moments, however brief, that we can be happy or normal. And who on earth could fake EDS. It is never easy to lose a friend, especcially so cruely. Maybe one day she'll realize just how wrong she was, and she'll have to live with the fact that she said such horrible things. As one EDS sufferer to another, I don't just believe you have EDS I KNOW it. You will always have me as a friend. I hope the wound this person caused heals soon, because she isn't worth the pain she caused. Love you hun
Frankly you are better off without her. I understand how hurtful this was but truly 'she' is the one with the problem. I am so sorry that you were on the receiving end of such immature, bitter and hateful words. I hope one day she looks back and is truly ashamed. In the meantime, hold your head up high, you have done nothing wrong, as far as I can tell you have dealt with your EDS with maturity beyond your years. I am sure you know inside your heart that there is far better people out there for you to be friends with and those will be lucky to have someone like you whom they can have fun with, to share the good & the bad times with. Your 'friend' sounds angry and confused and ignorant. You on the other hand are are none of those things. I hope when you have gotten over the shock of such horrid words that you know in your heart that you are far far better than she. Take care Megan
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